Spring Retreat 5785: Judging Favorably, Living Fully

This year's Spring Retreat took Chaviva to Hocking Hills, where the theme was dan l’kaf zechus—judging others favorably. This powerful value felt especially meaningful during the days of Sefirah, a time when we strive to grow spiritually and refine our character in matters bein adam l’chaveiro.

We kicked off the retreat by returning to Old Man’s Cave for a breathtaking hike. Along the trail, students reflected on the power of water to carve through stone—a natural wonder that once inspired Rabbi Akiva to pursue a life of Torah learning. As we climbed and explored, the message was clear: transformation is possible, even in unexpected ways.

That lesson hit home sooner than we thought. On the way to our rental homes, the bus hit an uneven patch of road and got stuck, a full mile from where we needed to be. But in classic Chaviva fashion, the girls stepped up without complaint, hauling their bags, food, and supplies on foot. It was tough, unexpected—and, as the girls themselves put it, “so Chaviva.” With laughter, teamwork, and a sense of adventure, they turned a challenge into a highlight. As one student put it, “When things go wrong, we see the best in the situation and push through!” A refreshing swim under sunny skies made the impromptu hike all the more worthwhile.

The retreat continued with thoughtful programming, including a meaningful teacher panel featuring Miss Halpern, Miss Nussbaum, Mrs. Wolman, and our chaperone, Mrs. Schabes. Each shared personal stories and insights about judging others favorably, leaving students with practical wisdom and heartfelt inspiration.

On Monday morning, we davened outdoors, connecting to Hashem through the stillness and beauty of nature. A guided workshop followed, focusing on the idea that judgment, when used thoughtfully, is not inherently negative. Rather, it is a necessary part of growth when balanced with compassion. As we learned, Hashem models the harmony of din (justice) and rachmanus (mercy), and we, too, are called to apply both with care and intention.

That afternoon, Color War broke out—Chaviva-style! This year’s teams were Crocs (9th and 11th grades) versus Floafers (10th and 12th grades), a clever reminder that we should never judge someone until we’ve walked in their shoes. The competition was a lively mix of athletic events and creative challenges, from song and dance to divrei Torah and visual art. Mazel tov to Team Floafers on their win!

One of the most moving moments of the retreat was the annual Senior Panel. With tears, laughter, and lots of hugs, our seniors shared honest reflections and heartfelt advice, urging their younger peers to cherish their time at Chaviva. It was a powerful reminder of the bonds built here and the growth that happens along the way.

We ended the day with a special showing of Inside Out 2, which resonated deeply after a retreat focused on empathy, perspective, and internal growth. The film underscored a message we had explored all weekend: we never truly know what someone else is going through. Kindness, patience, and understanding go a long way.

In every way, the retreat captured what it means to be a Chaviva girl—resilient, reflective, joyful, and growth-oriented. Even when the road gets bumpy—literally—we choose to carry forward with strength, unity, and heart.